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Shame and Sexuality
What do you know of great love? Have you ever loved a woman until milk leaked from her as though she had just given birth to love itself, and now must feed it or burst? Have you ever tasted a woman...
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Depth and Desire
Two years ago, on the morning after my birthday, I woke up in a downtown Vancouver apartment, with a life changing epiphany. I lay naked in bed, gazing at the man slumbering beside me, his fluffy...
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Expanding and Exploring
“You have permission to ask for what you want.” Do you really know how to play? These words of relationship advice, from Marcia Baczynski, shifted my perspective about the relationships I was in at the...
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Gratitude and Growth
Just over two years ago, on a drunken stumble through the streets of East Vancouver with an ex, I was confronted with a question I didn’t know how to answer, and the quest for that answer changed the...
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In Limbo Lies the Love Languishing
“The ultimate state of love is freedom, absolute freedom, and any relationship that destroys freedom is not worthwhile. Love is a sacred art. To be in love is to be in a holy relationship.” ~ Osho...
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Self Intimacy, Sex-Positivity, Shame, and the Resilient Edge of Resistence
“Boundaries are an essential part of life. They delineate and maintain needed borders and separations, making differentiation possible at every level. Boundaries both contain and preserve the...
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Radical Self Reliance and Community Responsibility
“The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they induce….. All too often these ill-conditioned implicit beliefs...
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Tolerating Trauma
I am tolerating my trauma. As I sit down to write, anticipating the next session of the Good Girl Recovery Program, and reflecting on how my life has changed since I first took it three years ago, I...
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Keeping Up With The Joneses
I love Bridget Jones. If I had to pick three fictional characters I most closely resemble, she’s at the top of my list. For a chronically single 20-year-old at theatre school in London, Bridget Jones’s...
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Together Independently
“How do you explain to people that it is not true that you have a fiercely guarded heart? That it just feels like you have not had the space that felt safe enough to fully share it? To really let...
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Reclaiming Queerness
There is so much that I want to write about right now, and I don’t know where to focus. I want to write about the excitement I feel after a day of teaching about Consent Culture, and engaging in rich...
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Polyamory and Pride
This article is based on a public Facebook post I made, and adapted after much animated discussion, for which I am very grateful. You can check out the original post here. The tl;dr summary: Language...
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Fuck Yes
Today, this blog is six years old. Today, I share some recent reflections on this radical journey. ~~~ I said yes to marrying my boyfriend because I was afraid that my life was going nowhere and I...
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On My 14th Wedding Anniversary
Fourteen years ago today, I got married. 7 years and 7 days later, I told my husband I wanted a divorce. This is why I’m celebrating my anniversary today. Yes, that’s really a photo from my wedding....
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All Good Things Must Come To An End
Love is not about losing freedom; it’s about sharing freedom with a partner who’s as talented a liberationist as you~ Rob Brezsny’s Free Will Astrology This post has been hard for me to write. Indeed,...
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